Have you seen my Egyptian Prince?

Since the recent resignation of previous President Hosni Mubarak, Egypt now has a sense of hope.

This is the breakdown

Egypt protesters across the Arab land were protesting their frustrations against governments, high levels of corruption, and ridiculous poverty rate. Thousands of protesters took the streets of Egypt to shout out their frustrations. The protestors were gassed and beaten.

The protests actually started online and then went to the streets. Egyptians used twitter to communicate their location and post videos of the protests and crowds. This caused the Egyptian government to shut down Internet access and restrict cell phone use.

                                                      Back to Relationships 101
                                                                Akim's Corner

I’m sure we all know someone or at least have heard of someone who has gone out on a date with a person they met via Facebook or some other popular social network, if not keep reading and surely someone will come to mind.

This week we’re using the country of Egypt as our springboard for a snapshot look into relationships and social networks.  Since Egypt is a predominantly Sunni Muslim country we are going to look at the dating and courting rituals of these members of the Egyptian population. 

A reader asked About.com “Do Muslims date? If they don't, how do they decide whom to marry?”

The website’s response was as follows: "Dating" as it is currently practiced in much of the world does not exist among Muslims. Young Muslim men and women (or boys and girls) do not enter into one-on-one intimate relationships, spending time alone together, "getting to know each other" in a very deep way before deciding whether that's the person they will marry. Rather, in Islam pre-marital relationships of any kind between members of the opposite sex is forbidden.

Ok, we already know while lengthy in description the answer really does not get to the nuts and bolts of why and if it would be possible for a young Sunni man or woman to date via social networks.  Let’s press on and find out more.

So, how do potential spouses meet?

First of all, Muslim youth develop very close friendships with their same-sex peers. This "sisterhood" or "brotherhood" that develops when they are young continues throughout their lives, and serves as a network to become familiar with other families. When a young person decides to get married, the following steps often take place:

•             The young person makes du'a for Allah to help him or her find the right person.

•             The family enquires, discusses, and suggests candidates from among the network of people that they know. They consult with each other to narrow down potential prospects. Usually the father or mother approaches the other family to suggest a meeting.

•             If the young couple and their families agree, the couple meets in a chaperoned, group environment. Umar related that the Prophet Muhammad (peace be upon him) said, "Not one of you should meet a woman alone unless she is accompanied by a relative (mahram)." The Prophet also reportedly said, "Whenever a man is alone with a woman, Satan is the third among them." When young people are getting to know each other, being alone together is a temptation toward wrongdoing. At all times, Muslims should follow the commands of the Qur'an (24:30-31) to "lower their gaze and guard their modesty...." Islam recognizes that we are human and are given to human weakness, so this rule provides safeguards for our own sake.

•             If the couple seems compatible, the families may investigate further - talking with friends, family, Islamic leaders, co-workers, etc. to learn about the character of the potential spouse.

•             Before making a final decision, the couple prays salat-l-istikhara (prayer for guidance) to seek Allah's help and guidance.

•             The couple agrees to pursue marriage or part ways. Islam has given this freedom of choice to both young men and women - they cannot be forced into a marriage that they don't want.

This type of focused courtship helps ensure the strength of the marriage, by drawing upon family elders' wisdom and guidance in this important life decision. Family involvement in the choice of a marriage partner helps assure that the choice is based not on romantic notions, but rather on a careful, objective evaluation of the compatibility of the couple. That is why these marriages often prove successful in the long-term.

So there you have it!!!!  With these precise steps rooted in faith, family and tradition there is no room for the intervening of social networks.   In spite of the technology that is used in today’s world, it is rather refreshing to see a culture committed to continuing in the practices that have yielded much success in years gone by.  It’s like they say “If it aint broke, don’t fix it!”